"F*ck You" Money
What is the optimal amount of wealth?
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In a 2018 Esquire interview, essayist and statistician Nassim Taleb gave the following description for the optimal amount of wealth:
This runs counter to the generally accepted idea of "f*ck you" money.
We tend to picture "f*ck you" money as a minimum hurdle. What's your "f*ck you" money amount?
$100K? 1M? $5M? $100M? Everybody has a different answer.
"F*ck you" money, in our heads, is a singular point. Once we cross it, life's problems melt away. When you have X amount of money, you can say "no" to things that you don't want to do. Nobody owns you. Your life is wholly yours. You have the ultimate degree of freedom.
This is what we think "F*ck you" money looks like:
But reality isn't filled with straight lines that we can extrapolate forever. Reality is messy, full of nuance. The reality of "f*ck you" money isn't a singular point to cross, but a range to stay between. A dollar too much, and you descend back below that threshold. The formula is reversed, and additional wealth comes at the expense of additional freedom. Sure, you might be "rich" financially, but you don't have "f*ck you" money.
Let's dive into both sides of the graph.
Being Poor Sucks
In one of my first articles, Time Isn't Money, I discussed the diminishing marginal utility of money. A graph of wealth vs. happiness looks something like this:
A small increase in wealth leads to a massive increase in happiness when you have little, and massive increases in wealth hardly move the bar as net worth increases. For this exercise, it is important to note that happiness is very low when wealth is zero.
Imagine that you live in Atlanta, GA and make $12 per hour. At 40 hours a week and 52 weeks a year, that's $25k annually.
A room in a 3BR apartment in a decent part of town is going to cost you ~$1k, effectively deleting half of your income. You can probably survive on the other $13k annually if you cook at home, never take any trips, and avoid going out on weekends.
Until something bad happens.
What if your car breaks down? You have an unforeseen medical emergency? A family member gets sick?
You never made enough money to save extra income, so you're out of luck (and probably in debt).
Poverty leaves you perpetually skating on thin ice, living from paycheck to paycheck. The ice keeps heating up the longer you skate, and it's only a matter of time before you fall in.
Poverty keeps individuals trapped in dead-end jobs because they can't afford to leave and look for something new. Poverty turns medical emergencies into financial catastrophes.
Poverty puts your destiny in the hand of circumstances that you often have no control over, because poverty doesn't allow you any financial flexibility.
However, as your income grows, outside circumstances lose their grip on your life. If you have $50,000 saved up, you can weather seven months of unemployment, afford to repair your truck's transmission, and cover emergency medical expenses.
If you have $50,000 saved up, you can quit your job and take a leap of faith to try something new.
If you have $50,000 saved up, you have options.
But what happens if you swing the pendulum too far to the other direction?
Being (Too) Rich Can Also Suck
Would you switch places with Elon Musk? $229B net worth. Known for creating the world's first reusable rocket ships, taking electric vehicles from pipe dream to reality, and posting dank memes on Twitter. You could live anywhere you wanted. Date anyone you wanted. The world would know your name, and you would go down in history as one of the greatest minds of the 21st century.
If you said yes, I want you to really think about it for a minute. Read these quotes from a 2018 New York Times article about Tesla's CEO:
And Musk isn't an exception. I would say for the ultra rich, he is the norm.
Alice Schroeder's book, The Snowball: Warren Buffett and the Business of Life, gave us a sobering look at the home life of the world's most famous investor.
In May 2021, the world's 10 richest men had 13 total divorces, with Mark Zuckerberg and Larry Page being the only two still married to their original spouses.
Did you know that world's 10 richest men have had 13 total divorces. 🤦🏻
— Varinder Bansal 🇮🇳 (@varinder_bansal)
May 4, 2021
Did billions of dollars make Elon Musk miserable? Did Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, and Jeff Bezos suffer failed marriages because of their $100B net worths? Not necessarily. However, the traits that made them so successful both financially and professionally have also made the other aspects of their lives a living hell.
No one is superman, and we are all limited by time and energy. If you invest maximum effort into your career, your personal life has no choice but to suffer.
The average life matrix looks something like this:
The life matrix of the world's "most successful" individuals looks something like this.
Life is defined by opportunity costs. The opportunity cost of reaching the pinnacle of professional success is often a lackluster family life. It's not necessarily that money destroys relationships, but the dedicated effort needed to achieve this success comes at the expense of other (often family) aspects of one's life.
A singular drive to succeed professionally often yields a life where one's only success is in their profession.
No one can have it all.
But it's not just the opportunity costs associated with success that plague the ultra rich, it's the magnification of every aspect of their lives.
Here's an example:
If I were to call Taiwan a country... actually I'll just do it.
"Taiwan is a country!"
There is a zero percent chance I would be pressured to apologize for it. Nothing would happen. Frankly, no one would care what I thought.
Yet when actor John Cena accidentally said, “Taiwan is the first country to watch Fast and Furious 9," he was forced by China to issue the cringiest apology video in history.
When then-Houston Rockets GM Daryl Morey tweeted support of Hong Kong, he almost lost his job.
China threatened to pull much of its NBA coverage from its broadcasts, including all Houston Rockets games. Like Cena, Morey later issued an apology of his own. Past a certain point, freedom of speech is a casualty of personal success.
Money affects the dynamics of one's interpersonal relationships as well. When you are rich, new "friends" that seem genuine pitch you investment ideas four months into the "friendship". Your dating life is compromised by bad actors that are more concerned with your wallet than your personality. Family members come out of the wood work asking for financial help.
Your private life quickly becomes a public life as your wealth and fame balloon. Rabid fans blow up your email inbox and try to find your personal address. Your daily routines become front page media stories.
But don't take it from me, listen to Tim Ferriss.
Now you may be thinking, "Okay Jack. But the money itself isn't causing the problems. It's just associated with them."
And maybe you're right, hypothetical person that I created for the purpose of conjuring this question, but that doesn't mean the issues that I highlighted aren't exponentially more likely once your wealth passes a certain threshold.
If you are "publicly rich" (think athletes, authors, movie stars, politicians, etc.), you no longer have a private life. Everyone wants a piece of the public figure, for better or worse.
If you are "privately rich", you still run the risk of sacrificing other areas of your life for the sake of success. You could have all the money in the world and be a prisoner to your ambitions. What good is $100B if all of your relationships are in shambles. Money can't buy true friendship, camaraderie, love, or desire.
After a certain point, your inflating financial assets become toxic liabilities.
The ultra-rich, like the impoverished, find that their decision making processes are largely dictated by circumstances outside of their control.
What Does F*ck You Money Mean to Me?
I would never want to switch lives with someone struggling to scrape by from week to week, but I certainly wouldn't want to live Elon Musk's life either. A lack of money makes you a slave to your wages. Too much money makes you a slave to your net worth.
In February 2021, my liquid net worth hit a peak of $410,000. This was largely the result of a successful 10 month run day trading the stock market. Ironically, I was further from having "f*ck you" money here than I was a year earlier.
Because I was a slave to my money. I couldn't escape the markets. I felt compelled to trade, to make that number go higher and higher, every single day. I said I would slow down at a million, but I know I wouldn't have. Because after one million, I would have wanted two. Then five. Then ten.
I didn't have "f*ck you" money. I had money that was saying "f*ck you, I own you" to me every single day.
To me, "f*ck you" money means I can do whatever I want. Right now, "f*ck you" money allows me to travel wherever I want, whenever I want. It means not having to check my bank account before buying something that I want. It means that I make enough money through activities that I enjoy to cover all of my expenses without having to go to an office.
When I'm older, "F*ck you" money will probably mean that I can send my kids to private universities without worrying about the tuition. It will mean that I can't be "employed", because I won't need to work for someone else. It will mean that I, and only I, will dictate the terms of my labor.
"F*ck you" money is pure, unadulterated freedom with no strings attached.
The billionaire hedge fund manager trying to outperform last year's returns doesn't have "f*ck you" money. Neither does the minimum wage worker struggling to survive.
While these individuals reside on opposite ends of the income spectrum, their minds are consumed by thoughts of needing more.
The guy with "f*ck you" money? He doesn't think much about money at all.
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